I wasn’t sure if I believed in forever, or maybe it was just that I didn’t want to. When I was young and hopeful, a wispy blonde who spoke only of idealistic love I believed in happily ever after. Whether it’s because I lacked a strong male role model as a young child or just that I existed alone in my own world for so long, I always yearned to be rescued. Of course I didn’t always have the awareness to know that, or even the courage to say it but this funny thing happens as

To the unnamed, the unknown and perhaps the unfathomable; the moments that define love. Maybe the best parts of life simply happen between sex and sunrises. I’m not talking about cheap one night stands that reek of sugary Bacardi while men try to find a woman’s worth within the depth of her cleavage or the ripeness of her thighs. What I am speaking of is the tight lipped intimacy that exists within a world set apart from others, and perhaps we can call this home or even comfo

Wrapped up within the promises of yesterday the heart breathes easily knowing when it’s found its home. To live is a search for oneness; for completeness to arrive not within a dwelling that has four walls to contain our aspiring hopes but a soul that encourages us to never settle for anything less than everything. Welcome home; home is where the heart is; home is where our story begins. We hear these quotes, these analogies and all the while we still believe that this idea o

It’s ironic that sometimes the very things we say we want we also don’t truly allow ourselves to receive. It seems that I talk to women all the time who literally have been dreaming of getting married since they were little girls. They have sweet memories of dressing up, walking down the aisle and pretending that they were brides on the happiest day of their lives. For a long time I wondered if there was something wrong with me because I never did that. While other little gir

What we expect; what we perceive is usually what we will also receive. The thing is with Love we have been taught that it should be many things but rarely is inspiring included in that long list. Yet, if our Love doesn’t inspire us to reach further and to become better then in truth, what purpose is it serving? I’m not talking about a supernatural Love, but in many ways why shouldn’t our primary relationship be that? Why shouldn’t the relationship that we invest the most in,

One of the essentials in this life that it seems we can’t live without is love. Yet, in all my work with couples I sometimes wonder…do we truly know what it means to love? There is a difference between love from the soul and love from the ego and not that one is better but after you’ve had a taste of the latter nothing else quite feels the same. It’s the kind of love that says please, but doesn’t ask for anything more than for us to love our own selves more deeply. When we lo

I know right off the bat some may see that title and automatically jump to conclusions, but the reality is that while so much time has passed since Martin Luther King first made his I Have A Dream speech, unfortunately our ideals and beliefs haven’t. I’ve written many pieces on race during the past few years because to me it’s an important topic, one that perhaps needs to be written more of and not just by those ethnic backgrounds that are considered minorities by the mainstr

Between moments of tender embraces and evenings falling asleep warm against another, it sometimes feels as though our wildness within can become silenced. There are those who rebel against this world—who rebel against the “I have to do it this way…” and the “I shoulds”—just because we are brave enough to dream of a world we haven’t yet experienced. One in which we don’t need titles to know love, and where we don’t need rings in order to know it’s forever. We’ve built ourselve